You can remove any button, add your own in your own words, and mark one as the hard one so it is worth more.
Why some wording is refused
A button describes what your child did, never what they avoided. The app will ask you to rephrase:
- "No hitting" → try "Kept my hands to myself"
- "Meltdown" → try "Asked for help"
A button that says "No hitting" makes a child think about the hitting every time they look at it. One that names the good version makes them think about that instead.
You need to keep at least one button. The "I had a hard moment and I came back" button is always there — it is the one they need on the day they least want it.